Yesterday, I was so sad. There was a news story about a mother in Vermont. This is the story very basic without much added detail. She drowned her 2 little children in a river and then herself. What is happening? How can this Happen? Her children were 2 and 6. My baby just turned 2 and my other child will be 6 in a few days. I just cried from the Horror! Those little babies, those poor little babies. Only the fact that God is holding those precious babies can I lay my head down at night. I cry for the fact that they will never see their mother again!
It puts my heart at ease if I just say that she is a monster. She is crazy and/or any of the names that makes her different than me make me feel safe and better about myself. But what if she was just like me? What if she was just going through a lot and had some long hard days?What if the people around her didn't offer her any support. Or what if she had people who wanted to help her but didn't take the help? What if she was over stressed, over tired and overwhelmed with life and just needed a listening ear?
Like I said I don't have the details, but what can we learn just from the few facts I have shared?
I have been so blessed with a group of ladies that have taught me to take a break when I need it. They have taught me to ask for help. They have helped me seen the signs that show me that I am empty with no more to give and I just need a hot bath or to let the kids play in another room while I read a book. Thank you ladies of Mother Matters, you have change me for the better. I wonder who else needs to hear this message of rest.
It may not be a popular idea but what if we have failed her and she has failed us? Maybe we need to take a little more time to get to know the people around us. Maybe we need to do our part to help others and to ask for help when we need it. There is a perfectionist bug running around saying, WE HAVE TO DO IT ALL AND BE EVERYTHING TO EVERYONE. It is the lie of satan. We can never fill those shoes for perfection. We need help and others' need our help. Maybe we can come together as a human race and help each other (and not stab each other in the back like TV always shows).
We can't save her or her little girls. I can't save anyone at anytime because it is not my choice it is their choice to be saved or not, but I can reach out my hand and get to know the people around me and offer help. I can't make them take it but I can offer. The other thing I can do is take help from others (this is very humbling at times and very refreshing). Don't live in the lie of perfection, it doesn't exist, it is a lie and it destroys. As Christians I thought we were the body of Christ, aren't we suppose to be helping those around us even if it makes us feel uncomfortable? I am going to work hard at making myself reach out to others more. It's not my job to save but if God can use me as a vessel than He can do the saving!
"From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work." Ephesians 4:16
One body working together for the goodness and the glory of God. I want to be apart of that don't you?
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